In today’s episode, I want to talk about cheats and lies, lies and cheats.
This week I listened to a radio show where the guest was an expert deception detective and was explaining how to decode lying through a person’s choice of words. My husband was listening to the show too and he asked me if I lie or have lied. So many thoughts came up about my morals and my character, because we learn that lying is concealment of truth. It is an aspect of ourselves that can reside in the shadow, always present but not clearly seen or understood, sometimes repressed. When I thought about his question more, I turned my focus inward and could 100% say yes, I lie and have lied…to myself.
You might relate to this self-lying if you’ve ever said, “I’ll start tomorrow” and don’t start tomorrow or say, “This is the last cheat meal ever” and end up making cheat meals last days upon days. There are many lies our brain serves up to keep us safe and not venture into perceived danger. Add the practice of repetition and these lies become part of our beliefs and lens we view the world through.
I’d like to offer you a suggestion that lies are actually just thoughts that are not factual. That’s exactly what this detective was explaining by the way people use words to evade the truth. When applied to making changes to your eating habits, your brain will kick up a dust storm of lies because it perceives change as a threat to your existence on this planet.
Here’s where you can take back your control – become aware of these thoughts and just notice them. When does “their” voice get louder? What is going on around you that your brain’s megaphone was turned on? Notice the emotion they turn on and the actions or inactions you want to take in the moment. Does it make you want to go for a third serving, do you want to throw the day away and binge, do you continue to throw shame at yourself? With awareness, you are suspending time and watching what could play out rather than being the test subject.
I help my clients identify the lies they have told themselves that no longer serve them. I help them release the weight of what that has done over the years. If you are ready to release yourself from this cycle, let’s discuss all of it in my complimentary coaching session.Go to “book now” or message me.
